Fiancé’s mother thinks I’m not good enough
Dear Pastor,
I am a 33-year-old woman and I am in a relationship with a man, who is 35. We have been going together for three years.
Things have not been going right between us since I met his mother, who lives in America. She came to Jamaica in December and we picked her up at the airport. My boyfriend and his brother and sister live at her house in St Catherine. I sometimes sleep with my boyfriend at his mother's house because he has his own room.
On the day that we took home his mother, I did not intend to spend the night with him because he had told me that she is very religious. So I spent a few minutes at the house before my boyfriend took me home. The following day, when I saw my boyfriend, he told me that his mother said that her spirit didn't take me.
I did not know this woman. It was the first time I was meeting her, but I did not go back to her house for the two weeks she was in Jamaica. Her spirit doesn't take me, so I kept away.
My boyfriend said she is a spiritual woman, so she knows what she was saying about me. Since that woman saw me and made that remark, my boyfriend has been keeping away from me. He used to sleep at my house sometimes, and other times I went to his house.
I have not done him anything. I asked him if his mother asked for me and he said yes, but he told her I was busy. She doesn't like me, so why should I go to see her.
My boyfriend and I planned on getting married in December. However, he now says that he is not sure he can go through with the marriage. I told him he does not have to.
I want him to do is to repay me the money that he borrowed from me, and he can go about his business. Since I asked him for the money that he borrowed from me, he has been trying to sweeten me up. I told him that man is not my problem because every day men tell me how much they love me.
I have kept away from other men because I was committed to him, but I now realise he has been influenced by his mother and believes I'm not good enough for him.
I just want back my money. He owes me $300,000 and I don't want the money piece by piece, I want all of it one time. Am I wrong?
If we were to get married, his mother will not accept me because her spirit does not take me. I have done many things for my boyfriend. When he was not working, I support him fully. I was looking forward for us to get married, but I don't want him any more.
R.T
Dear R.T.,
I know that some people may say that you are not getting married to this man's mother. The marriage is between this man and you. Nevertheless, what many people fail to understand is that when a man meets a woman and a woman meets a man, and both of them are in a relationship, and they decide to get married, they do not stand alone.
The woman is entering into the family of the man, and the man is entering into the family of the woman. If the man doesn't feel welcome in the family of the woman or the woman doesn't feel welcome into the family of the man, the union does not work very well.
Therefore, when this man's mother said that her spirit doesn't take you, she is saying that she doesn't love you, and her son should not marry you. He knows that that is what his mother is saying. That is why he is pulling away from you, so to speak.
You understand that very well, so don't allow him to try to make a fool out of you.
Run him!
Concerning the money that he owes you, insist that he pays you back every cent.
Pastor