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Dear Pastor,

I am an 18-year-old girl, but I look much older than my age and that is because I have big breasts.

I got this from my mother. Her breasts are very large. Men always tell me that I am very sexy and they would like to play with my breasts. No man has every played with my breasts because I do not even have a boyfriend and I am not interested in having one now. At present, I am preparing to head to college and my parents are responsible for me. My parents work very hard to support my other sister and I. My mother had a son before she married my father, and he is living with his father and stepmother. We talk on the phone every day. He is a police officer. I tell him what I am going through with guys; he said I should ignore them because that is how guys are.

I would like to become a teacher like my mother. I have always loved teaching. My father is a builder. My mother is always telling him that he works too hard. It is only on Sundays that my father does not go out and work. People try to get him to work for them on a Sunday, but my father tells them that that is the day he rests and goes to church. Even when my mother doesn't go to church, my father goes. He gives us offering for both Sunday school and worship service. My sister has another year in high school and she wants to attend UTech, Jamaica. She does not have big breasts.

My mother told me that my breasts would not get larger. But she hopes that a man would not marry me just because he admires then. I told my mother that I would not want to disappoint her and my father because I know they have tried to raise us in the straight and narrow way.

I am looking forward to your comments.

F.T.

Dear F.T.,

It is a fact that some men admire women with big breasts. But if you would observe, the size of a woman's breasts does not give her any advantage in the corporate world.

A woman has to be educated if she wants to excel in this world. So although some men may admire a woman with large breasts and even desire to have her, if that is all the woman has, the relationship will not last. Please don't misunderstand me. It is said that the feel of a woman's breasts stimulates a man's sexual desire more than any other part of a woman's body. Some women attach great significance to their breasts and that is why some years ago, it was said that women in Jamaica were consuming food that were meant for chickens to enhance the size of their breasts.

What is not known by some men is that fondling the breasts may or may not stimulate a woman. It is the area surrounding a woman's nipples which may get her sexually aroused. Now why am I saying all these things? I am telling you that you should thank your Creator for what you have and that you should not be worried about the size of your breasts because whether they are big or small, you are in control of them.

I am sure that your mother knows that you should wear the correct size brassiere at all times. I am glad that you are heading for college and I hope that you would become an excellent schoolteacher.

Pastor