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Dear Pastor,

I am a 60-year-old woman and I have five children for two different men.

I know you because you used to preach at my church. You were a young man then. I was so glad to hear your voice on the radio. Before I got married, I had two children, and I had three others after I got married. All the fathers of my children are dead. Thank the Lord one of them left money to support his children, but the person who was left in charge of the money robbed the children. They did not get the full amount that their father intended. But they have done well in school and have good jobs.

The children I have with my husband have struggled, but they can help themselves. I loved my husband. He used to sleep on my breasts. They were his pillows every night. My children bought a piece of land and have built me a house because my husband was not in a position to do so.

Now, there is a 70-year-old man who approached me and wants us to have a relationship. I told him that I am too old for that. He has his own house and he is a farmer. He brings me ground provision from his farm every week. I know he is trying to win over my heart. My children told me not to get involved with him. I have found myself dreaming about him and I had to rebuke Satan for the thoughts that came into my mind about this man and me.

Why should a woman at my age want a man? I read my Bible and I go to bed and I get these crazy dreams that I can't tell anybody about. Do you think that I get these dreams because I am not sanctified? Please help me.

K.J.

Dear K.J.,

I would not divulge the name of your church, but I have indeed enjoyed speaking there on a number of occasions.

You have always been a very pleasant person. I cannot comment on what you said about the money that was left by the father of two of the children to take care of them. I know that they have done very well academically. Even the children that you had by your husband have also done well. I am glad that they have bought you land and built you a house.

Now concerning this love affair that you are having with this man. I want you to know that children, especially boys do not like to encourage their mothers to get married or to remarry after their mothers have reached their senior years. But you know what you need. You know the feelings that you are carrying and there are times you feel for companionship. Your body is not dead, and if you believe that you love this man who is knocking at your door, you may consider opening up to him. You say that you have been having some crazy dreams about both of you and that you wonder whether you are sanctified.

Pray about your situation. Talk to your spiritual leader about this man's proposal. If the man is in a position to make you happy, go for it.

Pastor