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Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem and I need some advice from you. I am 27 and I am living with my babymother.

We have been together for three years. I have got myself in trouble. I was on my way from Manor Park, driving down Constant Spring Road and two young ladies waved me down and I stopped. They begged me for a ride to Half-Way Tree. They were very attractive. When they came into the car, they were chatting a lot. They told me things any man would like to hear. They say I was looking handsome and well put together. Then they said they were really going to New Kingston to hang out at the park, and asked if I could take them there. I told them no. They said they were hustling because their rent was due and they were unable to pay it, so they had to be hiding from the landlady.

When they questioned me about whether I had a wife or girlfriend, I told them that I had my girlfriend but she was away at the time. One of them said they would come and stay with me until my girlfriend returned. The other one said we can even do a threesome as long as I give them enough rent money. I asked how much the rent is and they said $70,000. I told them I didn't have that kind of money. They asked me how much I had and I told them that the problem is I have never gone with two women at the same time. They said, "Well, this would be your first experience and we would make it a time for you to remember."

The one sitting in the front started to put her hands on my thigh and I realised that these girls were serious prostitutes. They said they didn't have anything to eat, so I gave them $6,000, and when I got to Half-Way Tree, they were reluctant to leave the car. They said wherever I was going, they would ride with me. They convinced me to take them with me. I gave them the money to buy lunch in Half-Way Tree and I promised that I would pick them up in the late afternoon. That was the mistake I made.

I took them home with me. The girls had everything that they needed in a bag and they negotiated with me. I agreed to pay them $30,000. It was the first time I was paying for sex and my first threesome. They stayed all night with me. In the morning, I told them they had to leave, but they didn't want to, so I agreed for them to spend one more night. I told them that I did not have any more money. Then I lied that my babymother called and said she was going to land in Montego Bay, so I would have to pick up my brother-in-law and go for her. That is how I got rid of them, but I had to give them $20,000 more.

My babymother is back in Jamaica, but these girls are causing me trouble. They are calling the home and telling my babymother some wicked lies. They are even claiming that I am their man, and my babymother believes them. I really don't know what to do. Do you believe that I should tell my babymother the truth? I am afraid to do that because she might leave me. Please give me your advice.

R.T.

Dear R.T.,

These girls were hustling and you fell into their trap. It is not unusual for girls to offer themselves to men to engage in threesomes.

You were not wise enough to say no. Having two women in bed all night excited you and now they are calling you every day and harassing your child's mother. They are not going to give up on you easily because you were their prey and they feel that the only way to get more out of you is to lie to your child's mother and to get her so annoyed that she would leave you.

It is a big risk to tell your girlfriend what happened, but I suggest that you tell her how you got involved with these women. May the good Lord forgive me for telling you that it is a big risk to tell your girlfriend that you went to bed with these girls. If you do not believe that you should tell her that you had sex with them, you should tell her enough to cause her to stay with you. You have to tell her that you got mixed up with these girls, but they mean nothing to you. If your woman should ask you if you had sex with them, you should tell her the truth and beg her to forgive you.

Pastor