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Dear Pastor,

I am a 25-year-old single woman. I have two children but their father and I are not together.

He left me and went to Canada when I was pregnant with our second child. He promised that he would support me but he did not keep his word. He sent money to help me pay the rent for a couple of months and then he stopped. Whenever I call him, he does not answer. His sister and I are good friends. She told me that she spoke to him and he told her that he was under stress and he was planning to return to Jamaica.

After I had my second child, I could not return to work for a while because I was not well. My father assisted me, and he told me that he never liked my children's father. My father had to pay my rent, so he told me to return home. I felt like I failed my parents but I went home. My mother was happy to help with the children. I told my father that I would try to get money from my babyfather but his sister told me that he had got married, so I did not even bother to try.

I got involved with a man who was twice my age, and my father has encouraged the relationship. He told me that it's better to be an old man's darling than a young man's slave. This man had his own home so I moved in with him. I have been living with him for six months and he got me pregnant. I was careless because I did not think that he could get me pregnant. He is the happiest man in Jamaica. He likes to play with my tummy, likes to see me in the nude, and uses olive oil to rub me down.

I called him an old man to tease him and he says yes he is an old man, but look at what he has done. About a month ago he bought me a car, so now we have two. I am proud of this man and my two children love him and we are getting along very well as a family. I never thought that I would marry a man twice my age, but our wedding is already being planned and we are wondering whether you would agree to officiate. I am with a man who cares about me. I have nothing to offer him but love. I was not even aware that he has such good investments. Since I have been here, I have found many things about him.

Please do not mention my initials.

Initial withheld,

Dear Writer,

All I can say is that if you love this much older man, go through with your marriage.

I believe that the father of your two children may one day regret that he did not treat you well, but it would be too late. By the way, you should have known that a man who is 50 years old and in good health can impregnate a woman. Men who are in their 70s and even their 80s have impregnated women.

You have a good father who rescued you after your children's father abandoned you, so to speak. He extended parental love and your mother also played her part. I hope that everything will go well with this man and you.

I would be willing to officiate your wedding. Please call my office for an appointment. My office number is 876-929-1667 and my cell is 876-877-1009.

Pastor