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Dear Pastor,

I do not like the job. I am 19 years old and I want to go back to school. My parents couldn't afford to send me back to school, so I had to get this job.

I am the eldest girl for my parents, but I have older brothers. Two of them are ambitious, but one sits by the roadside and is always digging out the palm of his hand. He doesn't like to work, but he has the prettiest girl in the community. I don't know what she has seen in him, but she loves and supports him.

One thing I know, for sure, is if anybody interferes with me and I tell him, he will find that person and warn him not to interfere with me. He is very arrogant. His girlfriend told me that she likes the way he lives. He doesn't have to work, and the money she makes can be shared for both of them.

This girl is not Jamaican. She works in tourism industry. Sometimes he picks him up and takes him away for weekends. He normally boasts about what his girlfriend did for him for the weekend. He does not have children, but he told us that his girlfriend has two. They do not live with her.

She smokes weed, and there are times that it seems she is going crazy after using it.

My brother is worried because his girlfriend will be leaving Jamaica soon, and she does not know whether she is going to come back.

This girl has a very light complexion. She said she cannot marry him because her man abroad doesn't expect her to have a man in Jamaica. My mother did not know that this woman is had a man overseas. She came to the house one day and my mother cooked roast breadfruit and mackerel and gave her, which she enjoyed.

In conversation with my mother, she told her that she is married, but her husband is abroad. My mother asked her why she got involved with my brother and she said because he was very nice and she gets lonely in Jamaica.

The following day when my mother was talking to my brother, she told him to leave the girl because he may lose his life. My brother told her that her man is not in Jamaica, so he cannot lose his life. This girl bought jewellery for both of them. He told me that as soon as she leaves Jamaica, he is going to sell them because he would not want to keep them.

He said that when she saw that he wasn't interested in buying, she told him he was boring and she started to flirt with other men at the club. He left her there. My brother told him that he should have swiped it and don't go back, but he said he was afraid.

I am really concerned about my oldest brother, who is with this foreigner. It seems to me that this half white girl has him hooked. She is hoping to leave him the car that she bought since coming to Jamaica.

Some of these foreigners are very bad and they are leading our Jamaican males astray.

R.A

Dear R.A.,

I wish your brother would listen and not waste his time by the roadside smoking the weed. Everywhere I go these days, I see our Jamaican guys with white girls. Nothing is wrong with that if they are truly in love. However, some of these women hear that Jamaican men have 'big bamboo' and they want to experience that from the men.

They also hear that using the weed gives an extra kick. It takes them to a real high. That is why our young men should be careful where they go with these girls on dates.

Your brother should realize that this is not a good woman. While she is in Jamaica, she is not loyal to her man abroad. It is likely after she leaves, your brother won't hear anything from her. It is time for him to leave this woman alone. However, I doubt he will, because she is showering gifts on him. He is living off her. She is no good, but neither is he.

Your other brother, who was introduced to one of her girlfriends, ran from her when he realized that she is a prostitute. There are many prostitutes around and some are big hustlers.

Pastor