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Dear Pastor,

I am a 30-year-old woman and I have been reading your column for a long time.

Some of these letters crack me up and I used to wonder how some people can be so stupid. But since I have been having problems with my man, I realise that some of the people who write to you are not stupid at all. My son's father and I are not getting along, and I told him that I would leave him. He told me I cannot leave him because I would never find anybody who is better than him. I have not looked around for another man because my son's father gives me everything I ask for. We do not own a home, but he allows me to control his money. I am responsible for using his money and to pay the bills. I even give him pocket money.

When I say that to my friends, they tell me that I will not find another man like him because not many men would like women to spend their money. But my man doesn't question what I do with his. Occasionally, he asks me whether I have given my mother any money and he would instruct me to send her some from his pay. He likes my mother because when he got me pregnant, my father cursed me, but I was living with my mother who told me that although I made a mistake, the world was not going to end because I got pregnant.

My mother spoke to this man and I and he promised her that he would marry me and support his child; and that is what he has done. I went back to school and he supported me. I love him more than slice bread. But there is this girl at his workplace who wants to take him away from me. I called and told her that I will beat her behind, so she should leave my man alone.

My husband told me that I should not have called her, but I told him that I will do it again if she does not stop offering herself to him. He did not tell me what was going on, but I saw text messages in his phone from her. Did I do something wrong? I want to hear from you.

T.E.

Dear T.E.,

I am glad that you love your man and I am delighted to hear that you have been reading my column for a long time.

Without a doubt, your husband loves you and has confidence in you. He allows you to handle his money and not many men allow their women to be in charge of that; so you are very fortunate. You should not only pay the bills, but you should try and put away something for savings and investments. It does not have to be a great sum of money, but remember, what you have put away, it should be done regularly and weekly or monthly as this man gets his salary. You did not say whether you are working, but I am assuming that you also earn, and if you save together, you will build up a large amount of money over a long period of time.

Continue to love your husband. Please ignore the girl who is trying to take him away from you. Your husband has his head on his body, so to speak, so you need not fret. He is not going to leave you, because to him, you are the sweetest woman on earth. Take care of your good self and let me hear from you again.

Pastor