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Dear Pastor,

It is a long time since I have contacted you, but I have been reading your column and listening to you on the radio. I am sure you would like to know that my children have all grown, but the part I know you would not like to hear is that my husband and I are now divorced.

This man started to accuse me of having other men with him, and he was listening to people who took news to him. They told him that while he was gone to work, I had men coming to the house, and that I was entertaining them there.

It was all lies.

I was very active in my church, but he created a scandal on me, so I had to leave the church. I was so ashamed.

Since I got a divorce, one of my sons and I bought a lovely parcel of land, and we have built a house. I am doing business there. I am very comfortable. I travel often. I am not saying that life is easy, but I am very comfortable.

I am enjoying my grandchildren and I have very good friends who are always checking in on me.

When I left this man, I left all the furniture in the house and I started fresh on my own. We had money in a joint account and I did not take any of it. One of my friends told me I should have taken out half of the money from the account, but I left him with everything.

I would love to come and see you. I would love to get an appointment. You have been like a father to me, and I will always remember your kindness and words of encouragement. So, until I hear from you, I will always love you.

Thank you, for everything.

S.T

Dear S.T.,

When I received your letter, it took me a little while to figure out who was writing to me. Then I recognised the address and it all came back.

It has been such a long time since I last heard from you. I'm truly sorry to hear that your marriage ended in divorce. I'm not here to question your side of the story, but I must admit I would like to hear from your husband directly. I want to understand why he chose to believe what some people said about you.

Were those things said out of jealousy? That's something I would really like to ask him myself. You've always been a hard-working woman, and I've never known you to be anything but dedicated and strong.

Although you were married, you did not depend on your husband. You had an independent mind and you have been very successful in the type of work that you do. Well, not all marriages work. Thank God, you and your son were able to buy a piece of land and to build a house.

You are a very good woman. Some women would have cleaned out the matrimonial home; they would have taken every piece of the furniture and they would have taken out everything from the bank account, but you did not.

So although your husband had a lot of things to say about you, he could not say that you left him on his face.

I will be glad to see you. Whenever you plan to be in Kingston, you should let me know. However, you should make an appointment to see me.

Please call the office at (876) 929-1667 or (876)877-1009. I wish you well.

Pastor