ÐÓ°ÉÐÔ°É

Dear Pastor,

I started reading your column when I was a teenager and I am now in my mid-20s.

I have two girlfriends and I love them both. Recently, they found out about each other and they are cursing each other. I do not know what to do with myself because I do not want to lose either of them. I am living with one of my brothers and his wife. One of the girls is of light complexion and my brother's woman knows her. She likes her, so she is telling me to drop the other girl and stick with the 'browning'.

My brother's wife is creating some problems for me because the girl came to see me and I was not at the house. She let her in and gave her clothes to spend the night. When I went home, I had taken the other girl with me. My brother's wife was asleep. She said she was trying to tell me that I had a visitor, to inform me that the other girl was there. I said to the one at the house "You would have to leave because I did not expect you here." But she refused to leave and started to curse the other girl. She told her that she should leave me alone because she was with me before she pushed herself on me.

My sister-in-law woke up and apologised to me. She said she did not know that I was taking the other girl to spend the night. She told my light skinned girlfriend that she can stay with her in her children's room. I lost control of myself and I used some indecent language. I really told my sister-in-law some things and when my brother came home, she told him that I said expletives to her. He and I almost get into a fight and that has never happened before.

I got into my car and took the girlfriend who accompanied me to the house to a hotel. I have asked for my sister-in-law's pardon for using expletives to her. But since that night, she hasn't been talking to me. Both of these girls are very stressed. I do not know what to do. My brother said I should find a place to go, but I know he is talking nonsense because I am paying most of the rent. But I respect him because he is my oldest brother and I was wrong to curse his wife.

I know I cannot continue with these two girls. Help me to make a decision.

M.R.

Dear M.R.,

I believe it is possible for a man to love two women at the same time, but he has to love one more than the other.

So the question you should have asked yourself is which of these women you love more. Do you love the light complexion woman who was in your bed when you went home, or do you prefer the dark skinned woman who put all the pressure on you? It is unfortunate that you used expletives to your brother's wife. I am assuming that she tried to contact you to tell you that the other girl was there, but she was unable to reach you. Or perhaps she just wanted to give you a surprise.

I am glad your brother and you did not get into a fight; he wasn't pleased to hear that you disrespected his wife. You are going to need your brother and he will need you, so both of you should try and come together in peace. These women will find other men but your brother is blood, so make it right with him.

Stick with only one woman and don't throw your seed around, if you know what I mean. I wish you well.

Pastor