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Dear Pastor,

I am living with a man, but we are not married. Every night before we go to bed, he insists that we should watch adult movies.

He likes to see women having sex with women. At first, I could not bear looking at such movies, but I have got used to watching them so much so that I have learnt a lot from them.

I have asked my man what would happen if our relationship doesn't work because it would be hard for me to adjust to another man who is not interested in these things. My man pulls and stretches it, and I experience orgasm numerous times for the night.

I am 21 years old and he is 23. His father helped him buy a car, and he allows me to drive the car to work. He uses the company vehicle to get around.

Now, the main reason for writing to you is to tell you how I feel about this situation. This man is now insisting that we try anal sex. I have told him that I am not going to be engaging in such activity. I am happy with him doing what he wants with me, but I will not have anal sex.

He told me that he would like try it just once for us to get the experience of how it feels.

What do you have to say about that? I told this guy that I am prepared to leave him if he does not behave himself. We have only been together for a year. I have had a boyfriend before, but he went overseas. He thinks I am still living at home with my parents.

My mother is living with her boyfriend, and my younger brother is living with them.

This guy that I am staying with takes care of all my bills although I am working. I started to have sex at 18 years old, but it is the first time I am having wild sex. This guy told me that he will have to leave Jamaica very soon because he is here on a work permit. I don't want him to mess me up.

What do you suggest I do?

R.T,

Dear R.T.,

It is not everything that I can print because children read this column, and with that, I think I have said enough that people will understand your situation.

Many emigrants are in this country working, and they rent lovely apartments and treat Jamaican girls as queens. They are also able to support young girls very well. The relationship that you are in cannot last, and right now you are fooling your boyfriend, who lives abroad. It will not be long before he finds out that you are a trickster and a liar.

This guy with whom you are living is supporting you well, so you are excited. You can drive this car to go to work, so you feel that you are special, but that comes with a high price. However, the day you stop giving him what he wants, he will chase you away because it is not going be difficult for him to find another girl who will go all the way for him.

I am going to be frank with you: break up with this young man. Not every type of sex is good sex.

Let me hear from you again.

Pastor