Body is calling for my boyfriend

June 30, 2025

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old and this is not the first time I am writing to you. When I was in high school, I had a problem with my stepfather and you gave me good advice.

Now I am working and I have a good job. I have a boyfriend who is studying abroad. We love each other and he told me not to get involved with any man while he is away. He said he will not get involved with any woman in America because we were made for each other. I was the one who took his virginity. He did not take my virginity because I lost that when I was 17 years old. But up to the age of 20, he had not have sex. So I went to his house one Sunday evening while his mother had gone to a convention and he and I were alone. So he said I am special because I took his virginity.

Sometimes this man and I talk until I fall asleep. I don't go to bed until we talk. This long-distance relationship is affecting me. I see nice guys all around me. Even at my workplace, guys ask me to go out with them. But I told them I have a boyfriend and they don't want to believe me because they say that they have never seen me with a man. I told my boyfriend the truth that he should try and make arrangements to come to Jamaica in August for a weekend because I need him. He said I am rude and I should be able to keep up until he returns to Jamaica in December. I know I am not rude, but it is true to say that I would love for us to have sex in December. The plan is that when he comes in December, we will get married by next April. I don't have a visa, otherwise I would go to America and be with him for a weekend.

I am living with my aunt, but I don't discuss my problems with her. She is not married but her fiance is always at the house. However, he does not sleep over. She is a good aunt. I only contribute to food and electricity. She encourages me to save my money, so that I would have a good wedding. Do you think I should try and get a visa so that I can visit my boyfriend?

H.G.

Dear H.G.,

The month of December is not far away - only six months to go. You have been coping, maybe not very well, but you are coping nevertheless. You can continue to talk to your boyfriend late into the night. You will not die.

You may apply to the embassy for a visa but it may not be granted. That would be a waste of money. When this man returns in December, both of you will be married by April. You will not die from not having sex and neither would he.

Try to remain a good girl and don't get into trouble with these other men who are knocking at your door.

Pastor

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