Don’t want to give up my freaky girlfriend

June 24, 2025

Dear Pastor,

I just celebrated my 50th birthday. My three children organised a party for me and they pampered me.

Their mother passed on five years ago from cancer. She was a wonderful woman and I told myself that I would not get marroed again. So I have been trying to take care of myself. I wash, I cook, and I clean. I have a girl who comes by to see me and she offers me some pleasure.

My daughter is very blunt. She told me a few days ago that she is worried about me and she knows that this girl is trying to get all my money. She said I am going to need the money when I get older, so I should find a woman in my age group if I want companionship. The girl only stays a day or two at a time. I have thought about it and I believe that my daughter is right. My sons told me that I should not allow my daughter to control me; I am a grown man so I should know what I want.

To be honest, I know what my daughter said is right, but how can I give up this young girl? She is very nice to me. I loved my wife, but the things this girl does for me, I never did with my wife. How can I be sure that an older woman would do what this young girl does with my old body? This girl who gives me thrills is only 21 years old. She doesn't have children. She is still living with her parents. I will not marry her because she is too young for me. I will not tell you what I have done for her because my children may see this letter and be upset with me. I am happy to have good children. I am debt free. I am also in good health. You don't have to warn me, Pastor, I don't make love to this young girl without protection.

I believe I am too old for her. Do you agree with me? My children asked me her age and I told them that she is in her 20s. I did not tell them her excct age. But I want to know how you feel about a 50-year-old man having such a young woman. Please don't hold back; tell me the whole truth. I will be looking in THE STAR for your response.

U.C.

Dear U.C.,

I regret hearing that you lost your wife. But I am glad that the union produced three children and that you are close to your children and they love you.

You can only be 50 once in your life, so it was a wonderful thing to have the children come together and put on a party for you. Sir, when a man becomes a certain age, he should listen to his children. I don't mean to imply that his children should control him, but only a foolish man would not listen to his grown children and reason with them. You are a fortunate man. You are not in debt and you own your own house. But at 50, you are not an old man and your children know that you are in good health and you need a woman. That is why your daughter told you that you should seek a woman in your age group.

I suspect, however, that this young girl who gives you pleasure does freaky things. I know she does because you said that your wife never did these things. To ask this girl to leave now, you would be giving up the type of pleasure she has brought into your life. However, you have to ask yourself some serious questions, such as: if you were to become ill, would this young woman stick around with you? And would your children want her around? Right now she is not a caregiver; she is just your lover. So make up your mind about what you think you should do.

If you believe that your daughter is correct, tell her to help you find a grown woman, and cut off the relationship that you are having with this younger girl.

Pastor

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