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In a whirlwind of regret and a secret too heavy to bear, a 30-year-old man's life came crashing down after a devastating revelation -- the woman he had once shared an intimate relationship with turned out to be his biological mother.

Adopted at birth, Mark's* early years were filled with love. Though the adoption was not formal, his adoptive parents provided him with a nurturing home and the opportunity to pursue his passion for business. Despite always knowing he was adopted, Mark rarely questioned his origins until an unexpected encounter forced him to confront his past, in a manner he never imagined.

At just 23, Mark was already nursing battle scars from a string of failed relationships. Tired of heartbreak and craving something deeper, he found himself turning to older women for comfort. Fate flipped his world upside down one quiet, ordinary evening. While waiting on a friend at a hotel bar in Kingston, Mark spotted an alluring woman sipping a drink alone. Her confidence and calm pulled him in like a magnet.

"Mi did always fancy older women. All di young girl dem do a break mi heart. Suh mi breeze dem off and seh make me try them older," he told THE WEEKEND STAR.

That evening, as he waited for a friend after work, he noticed Kim* quietly enjoying her solo visit to Jamaica. Mark said she was stunning.

"Nice, short, chocolate woman; yuh look pan her, yuh woulda think she a my age," he recounted.

He struck up a conversation and their chemistry was instant. The two kept in touch after that night and started dating about a month later. But what Mark didn't know, however, was that he had just started a relationship with the one woman he should've never met that way - his biological mother.

As their relationship deepened, Kim's reticence about discussing her past led Mark to assume it was due to personal hardship. He admired her passion for travel and the quiet strength that shone through, even as she alluded to painful memories from her youth.

PAST TRAUMA

Mark expressed, "She never like talk 'bout herself, and I figured it was past trauma, because she did share with me that she went through a lot in her younger days. Mi nuh too pressure it because we did still fresh."

A turning point came during a 'pillow talk' moment when Mark, in an effort to open up to his new flame, mentioned that he was adopted. Mark said it is a subject he rarely broached. In response, Kim made a casual remark that would soon haunt him.

"She tell me she had a son when she was young, but her parents made her give him up for adoption right after birth because she was underage, and they couldn't afford to take care of the child," Mark related.

When Mark heard this, he had a gut feeling he couldn't ignore. He knew he had to explore the possibility that their lives were more connected than they appeared, he said,

"Her story and my story, even though mi never know much, was too similar and mi just did wah make sure, because at that point my feelings for her were growing stronger."

He further explained, "She take it as a joke when mi try make a connection and seh nothing cya go suh. Mi member when she look pan mi and tell mi seh 'If yuh a mi son mi woulda know.' And mi ask her how, because she not even know how him look now or where him deh or weh him name."

Puzzled and unsettled by her words, Mark sought guidance from his adoptive father. Over time, their conversations, filled with recollections of the adoption process and the careful decisions made by those involved, began to paint a startling picture.

His adoptive father recalled specific details from the day Mark was born. The details were also familiar to Kim. It was becoming increasingly clear that Kim's connection to him was not coincidental. Mark's adoptive dad and Kim were already familiar with each other when they met.

"Them know each other name, remember the day mi born and everything. That's when my father remind her that he and mama met her and her mother, through a family friend, and they took me in from there."

DEVASTATING NEWS

The arrangement, Mark said, wasn't processed through an official agency. His parents simply took him in and raised him as their own. As the truth unfolded, Mark learnt that his mother gave him up for adoption after becoming pregnant as a result of a traumatic experience. For Mark, the realisation was devastating.

"Is like it never faze her. At one point, mi feel like she did a try blame me for not finding out earlier. But how mi coulda know?" Mark said.

He continued: "That was the weirdest, most disturbing encounter of my life. Mi nuh bawly-bawly, and mi bawl so till mi sick. Mi basically sin."

In the weeks that followed, Mark grappled with an onslaught of emotions, from deep sorrow to a paralysing sense of betrayal. The intensity of the revelation left him questioning every past moment of intimacy and affection, and he now struggles to reconcile the loving memories with the painful truth of his origins.

"At one point mi just never feel fi live again. It took a lot for me to get peace of mind, and even now mi still think 'bout it," he said, his voice cloaked in sadness. "No matter how I try to forget, mi caah forget the time I unknowingly had a lot of sex with someone who turned out to be my biological mother."

Kim subsequently left the country, leaving Mark to come to terms with the devastating discovery on his own.

"I don't see her after that, I don't think I want to. What will ever become of it? Does it even make sense?"

His regret for not probing deeper into his origins during his youth now underscores a truth that, while heartbreaking, has forever reshaped his identity, he said.

"This made me regret not asking questions, mi can only hope God forgive me."

*Names changed to protect identity